“Are you over it yet?” How many of you have been asked that question after the death of a loved one? The grief that comes with losing someone is not something we “get over.” The pain may decrease in intensity over the years, it becomes something we learn to live with, but the death of someone close to us changes us.
Grief does not progress through nice, neat stages, but unfolds differently for each person. As we journey through the wilderness of grief, we need companions. We need people who will patiently support us, allowing each of us to go at our own pace. A grief support group is an ideal place to find such companions who can offer compassion and understanding.
Sarah Chivington-Buck and Kerri Bell will be facilitating a grief support group on Sunday afternoons from 4 p.m. to 5:30 p.m., April 15 through June 10. This group is open to anyone in Alva or the surrounding communities who has recently lost a loved one. The group will use the book “Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart,” by Dr. Alan Wolfelt. There is no cost to attend the group, though participants will be asked to purchase a copy of the book.
According to Dr. Wolfelt, research shows that grief support groups tend to be most helpful to people five to seven months after the death of someone close to them. Immediately following the death, one-on-one support can often be more helpful. The grief support group being offered is ideal for people who have lost someone between three and 18 months ago.
Each meeting will begin with an educational component about the basic needs of those who are mourning. This will be followed by the opportunity for group discussion and sharing of stories and memories.
There are a limited number of spots in the group, so interested participants need to sign up by April 5. The group will be held at the Presbyterian church, 628 Church St., Alva. It is open to those of any faith tradition, or no faith tradition. You may call the church office at 327-3895, and we will help you determine if this group is the right fit for your needs.
To those of you who are grieving someone you love, remember that along with the pain there are opportunities for growth and healing. And remember you do not have to journey through your grief alone – support is available.
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